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40 in 40: Lesson #33

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40 in 40: #33

I had a great experience on Sunday. I took a risk talking with someone that I had been meaning to talk to for a long time. Talking about a topic that was a bit scary to bring up.

I’m so glad that I did.

I moved toward the relationship and as I did the other person moved towards me. We ended up having a great conversation. I don’t know where our relationship will go next but I do know this:

If I hadn’t taken a risk I wouldn’t have the relationship.

Lesson #33

Risk is the currency of relationships.

As I think back over the past few years. My life has been filled with taking some degree of risks in relationships. Here are a few examples:

  • This spring, at the last minute, I invited myself to a conference that a friend was going to. I’m so glad I did. We had a great time and have a richer relationship for it.
  • This fall I asked an acquaintance that I had met only a couple of times to mentor me in a particular area of my life that I felt like I needed help. He said yes and we’ve met together a number of times since.
  • I reached out to a couple of friends that I haven’t heard from in a long time. In my head they had “lost interest” in getting together with me but when I did they said yes and we had lunch a few weeks later. It was so great to catch up.
  • I had a pretty significant life hiccup a month ago. I was stressing about it. It took some humility but I needed to talk to someone about it so I approached one of my close friends that I share office space with and talked to him about it. I was a bit embarrassed but he was gracious, encouraging, and gave me some great wisdom. What a difference a month makes.

In each of these relationships the easy thing to do would be nothing. But nothing get’s me the same thing I’ve been getting.

Are you taking risks in relationships?

Keep Moving Forward,


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I am the CEO of Blue Ocean Ideas, a creative agency in Baltimore, Maryland. My job is to clarify the strategy and take care of my team. I am married to the beautiful Elise Rittler and we have four great kids. When I’m not at Blue Ocean Ideas or with my family I am riding a bike, running, playing ultimate frisbee, eating, or sleeping. There is a little more about me here.

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