40 in 40: Lesson #32
40 in 40: #32
I’m full of quick judgments. Especially about people.
My brain is constantly feeding me information about the world. I judge circumstances, people, public figures, friends, family and more.
Often when I meet someone, within a few minutes I’ve made a number of determinations about them, their life, and their circumstances.
And to be fair my intuition is often right. I have a certain ability to take a wide range of information, process it quickly and make determinations. And in my work as a brand builder and a consultant this ability is often very helpful. It’s one of the strengths I bring to the table.
But many times reality is not what my brain tells me it is. Often I misread, misinterpret, and misunderstand people.
More often than not when I get slightly deeper into a relationship I find a different reality than what I expected.
If I leave room for a wide range of possibilities to be true I will often get a far clearer picture of reality.
There are some HUGE benefits from practicing this perspective:
- My circles of influence are wider.
- My depth of friendships is deeper.
- I’m able to hold things in tension with less anxiety and worry.
- My ability to respond to difficult circumstances is less fatalistic.
- I see the world more for what it is and less from what I THINK it is.
The consequences of living with a small and narrow perspective is equally powerful:
- My world closes up and I distance myself from relationships.
- Friendships are not as safe and I’m not able to stay in them.
- My reactions to situations is often poor and consequences are negative.
- I don’t see the world for what it is and I see what I THINK I see (or worse what I WANT to see).
How wide open is your world?
Keep moving forward,