40 in 40: Lesson #28
40 in 40: #28
When I was around 30 my kids were 9, 6, and 3. I was in the thick of young kid chaos. And I wasn’t sure how things were going for me as a dad.
So I looked for a solution. I asked a mentor, whose kids I thought had turned out terrific, this question:
“Pat, I need help. What were the rules that you used with your kids when they were young?”
First thing Pat said was, “Greg, I think you need to think differently about this. We have principles that guide our family, not rules.”
And then he shared those principles.
That was an invaluable lesson.
In life, principles trump rules.
When I change my frame from “rule” to “principle” I see things differently.
The world gets a lot bigger. There is freedom. I can be creative.
I can look for solutions that work in my circumstances and in my life. I don’t need to live by arbitrary “rules” but rather by the things that I want to move toward in life.
There is joy in looking at life like that.
Are you striving to obey rules or are you looking for the principles that you want to be guided by?
Keep moving forward,